Take the stress out of choosing the perfect first dance song
with some handy tips learned from experience...
The selection of a first dance song is such a different experience for every couple. For some, it's an easy "that's our song" and hey presto, it's in the bag. For others, it can often cause a little bit of anxiety, understandable if you don't have a special song or a preferred musical moment, because coming up with suggestions for the first dance song, let's face it, it's not something you do every day.
If you're a little nervous about the first dance, perhaps you don't like being in the spotlight, or just looking for a bit of inspiration picking that perfect song to dance with your loved one, read on..
What type of song?
Some couples choose a song that reminds them of an event, a favourite artist or band, a festival or a happy song they heard on holiday together.
Consider a cover version or if practical, can your band play your first dance song? At the end of the day you don't have to LOVE your first dance song, it's perfectly ok to choose one that serves a purpose.
Play your favourite song and dig around for a cover version of that same song on a platform such as Spotify, it can make an old song sound fresh and new or a fast paced song played at a slower pace could surprise your guests.
WHAT KIND OF DANCE?
Before trying to find a song, I’d say have a think about the kind of dance you want to do. I’ve seen shy shuffles where the couple can’t wait for their guests to join them on the dance floor, to full blown epic rehearsed routines with lifts and twirls. So do some dance research and go from there! Here are a few to get you started…
The Slow Dance – This is the most popular, it’s like it is at the school disco, it simple and needs no preparation.
The Slow Dance for 30secs – Some couples really don’t want this bit to last long, so they set the tone, and then encourage their guests to join them as soon as possible
The Choreographed Dance – Couples pay a professional to teach them to dance Salsa, or Classic Waltz etc
Film Inspired – Dances inspired by famous dance scenes in films such as Pulp Fiction, Greece, Dirty Dancing, Scent of a Woman, Saturday Night Fever, Footloose etc
Flash Mob – this starts with a slow dance and ends in a surprised choreographed dance with certain guests. I love this idea, although it takes a lot of preparation getting all the other dancers together (usually the bridal party if you have a large one)
Everyone Dance – this is where all the guests come onto the dance floor at the same time as the couple don’t want everyone looking at them for the traditional first dance.
The reason for a first dance is to start off the party, so have fun with it, no matter how you do it.
If you are a classic romanticist then a good old soppy song will work well, and there will be plenty to choose from by searching Google or Spotify. If you are looking for something a little different to the norm, then to get you started, I’ve created a list of songs that I think make ace wedding first dance song that aren’t cheesy (well, in my opinion that is)
Jose Gonzalez – Hearbeats
Metallica – Nothing Else Matters
Elvis Presley – Can’t Help Falling In Love
Slow Club – Apple + Pairs
The Lumineers – Flapper Girl
All I Want Is You – Barry Louis Polisar
Of Monsters and Men – Love Love Love
Sera Cahoone – Up to Me
Dire Straits – Romeo + Juliet
Wild Child – Pillow Talk
Louis Armstrong – La vie en Rose
Jose Gonzalez – Hearbeats
John Prine – Souvenirs
Shooter Jennings – Manifesto No1
Old Crow Medicine Show – Wagon Wheel
Jet – Are you gonna be my girl
CREATE A PLAYLIST
Start collecting songs that you may wish to dance to. When we got married loads of our mates loved coming up with ideas for music so I’d just add it all to a playlist and then nearer the day filter out what we liked and didn’t like. Your tastes may clash, and so creating a playlist is really helpful.
If you’d like to listen to the songs above, and some more, feel free to listen to my 1st Dance songs